8 min readJul 3, 2016

The Most Crippling Issue for Writers

And How to Beat it!

Since starting Positive Writer and publishing Writer’s Doubt, I’ve received thousands of emails from readers from all over the world asking for more guidance and specific writing exercises they can do to beat the living hell out of their fears and doubts.

The emails have also proven to be tremendously beneficial, in that I’ve learned firsthand from fellow writers in the trenches just how much, and just as importantly, why, their fears and doubts were crippling them.

The #1 most consistent and insanely debilitating issue was something so obvious, and yet we all tend to underestimate it.

Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win,
by fearing to attempt.
― William Shakespeare, Measure for Measure

Having fears and doubts about one’s creative abilities is absolutely normal.

If you’re human, you’ve experienced them and what’s more is that they’ve stopped you cold on more than one occasion. Don’t even try to deny it.

Shit happens, and for some of us it happens all too often, and in some cases, it appears to be permanent.

We see people succeeding all of the time as writers, as bloggers, as authors, or you name it, and we wonder how they’re doing it.

How are they doing it?

Maybe they’re lucky, maybe they’re especially gifted, maybe they work tirelessly, or maybe they’re utterly and completely fearless and doubt free.

What I have discovered is that it’s not any one of the above, and nobody, nobody is completely fearless, or doubt free for that matter. Nobody.

However, there is something they all do seem to have in common. They all made a choice. It was made consciously or subconsciously, but they damn well made it.

They chose to acknowledge the Elephant in the room and do something about it.

In one way or another they addressed their fears by acknowledging them and by doing so they discovered ways to work with them by finding the confidence they needed to accomplish their goals. For everyone this is different and in some cases has been done with the help of a teacher, a coach, a parent, a friend, or in some other way.

For writers I have some other way for you today in two steps, but before we get to those two powerful steps, allow me to make clear that becoming confident doesn’t somehow turn everything into sunshine and roses, and the fucked up things in the world are still going to be fucked up no matter how confident a writer you become.

I will say this, though, and you can quote me, without genuine self-confidence we can never reach our potential or achieve our dreams.

If you’re going to be a true artist, someone who actually creates work that matters, despite his or her own inner chaos, you must, absolutely, positively must, have confidence in yourself and be an enthusiastic advocate of your own work.

Believing in one’s self is paramount to achieving any dream or goal in life. There is no substitute.

Skill and talent pale in comparison to the power of one’s own self-confidence.

That’s why you see people with less skill and talent succeeding when deep inside of you, you know you are capable of much better.

The good news is that confidence can be learned, and not just the BS kind. We’re talking about the real stuff, the type that doesn’t need to be declared and just is. We can’t be successful without it.

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.
― Norman Vincent Peale

2 Steps

1: Acknowledge any (and all) fears and doubts you have.

2: Write about them. Expose them in a personal journal or diary.

You don’t have to share this writing with anyone unless you want to. It is essential that you do acknowledge in writing anything that is causing you to stall or is, in fact, stopping you from doing what you want to do.

Make a list. Write about all of them, and don’t allow any to stay hidden. Your feelings are valid.

What we imagine, and what we know, are not always the same things, and some fears may no longer have any power over us once we face them for what they are, in black and white. Some fears we’ve been holding on to for years and the cause is long gone, but the fear remains causing us never-ending doubts because we’ve never acknowledged and addressed the original cause. I’ll give you an example…

Beware with whom you share

When I was about 15 I shared one of my short stories with a friend of my parents. I do not remember why I shared the story with him because I didn’t share any of my writings with anyone back then. Maybe I needed advice and he wasn’t doing anything at that moment. I don’t know, but I do know it proved to be a devastating move.

He sat there reading the pages while chewing his gum in such a way as if chewing dramatically helped him read better. When he finished reading he began to tell me everything wrong with it, and he completely crushed my 15-year-old heart in a matter of minutes.

I mean, this dude went the extra mile to bring me down and likewise didn’t have anything good to say to encourage me to keep writing. Later I was asked why I shared my story with him because the guy was known for being a total jerk. Unfortunately, I didn’t know that at the time.

This didn’t mean my story was actually great, but it did mean he was the type of person intent on showing how important he was by bringing others down. Destroying a 15-year old’s dream of being a writer, who was already dealing with more than enough self-doubt, was right in his wheelhouse.

I held that experience inward for years and years, and then later as an adult when I finally wrote about it in my journal, I realized the lesson I learned was that we can’t ask for input from just any Tom, Dick, or Sue-Ann.

I know that seems obvious, but what seems obvious in writing, such as what you’re reading in this post, isn’t always obvious when it’s trapped somewhere in our brains feeding us constant helpings of self-doubt.

That experience held me back for too long and I would never have realized how much it affected me if I had not finally written about it.

You might be surprised what we hide within ourselves which when exposed no longer holds any power over us.

You’re a writer, so it’s worth doing the writing exercises. What if they do help?

If they do, it could prove life changing for your writing and your art. There are many other effective writing exercises that will also help and we’ll get to those in just a moment.

The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.
― Sylvia Plath

The Most Consistent and Crippling Issue

The #1 issue was that they underestimated how much fear and doubt actually affected them and held them back. They were perplexed as to why so many others with less skill and less talent continued to pass them by.

I’m no psychologist, but honestly, I think it’s normal to hate when that happens. It’s a natural reaction, and it especially hurts when you know you could be doing so much better.

It’s not until they decided to do something about it that things began to change, and for many of them, reading Writer’s Doubt was the impetus they needed to address what was holding them back.

We all need something to compel us to give a shit and make a change. We are creatures of habit. Change within ourselves and for our work doesn’t just happen, it needs to be specific and intentional.

We might not be able to change direction, or our habits, overnight, but we can decide to learn and do something new that will help us bring about change.

I’m not a scientist or a doctor, but what I have is profound personal experiences I’ve been open about. I have been fortunate to discuss these issues with thousands of people since coming forward, which has given me unique insights and enabled me to help fellow artists like you.

Most people suffer in silence…

Here’s the thing, most people don’t know what steps they can take to overcome the challenges they face and improve their writing confidence; however, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Fear and doubt about our writing and creative work only win when they keep us in the dark, alone, and frustrated. And they’re able to do that via our own built in denial systems.

Put the spotlight on them. Expose them. Write about them.

That’s what we can do right now and the sooner, the better. The power to be the writer only you can be is within you, waiting.

If you would like specifically designed writing exercises and guidance, and if these issues do cause you concern, then I believe they’ll help you, join me in my new online writing course “Writers Crushing Doubt.”

The course is designed for you to reach a new level of confidence in your writing and your creativity. You can read more about it here.

Never give up on your dreams and your goals as a writer. Never, stop believing in yourself. If you’re not getting the breaks you deserve then it’s time to start creating your own breaks.